After Love Lost

“Death is the shortsighted view; nothing ever truly dies. It simply lives on in another form”

Where do broken hearts go? Where is love lost gone? Surely both love and heart are somewhere when they are rejected.

I have always advised that we be careful when we create love. Love does not die. It may be abused, misunderstood, diminished or discredited for a myriad of reasons. But love is eternal. Love is forever.

I do not know (or care really) why it left you. I believe that that is not the point. What you do with that tiny ember left is the real issue. You could let it burn to ash, or add a bit of tinder and rekindle the spark into a mighty conflagration. Who knows what selfishness brought you to this point? Or naΓ―vetΓ©? Or just a series of unfortunate events?

I believe in moving forward. Agree to disagree on a couple of issues. Accept who you are, your inherent weaknesses and flaws. Recognise their limitations, and focus on their strengths. Above all, be quiet more often and listen to them more. Either ‘them’ past or present. Or both.

You do not have to fight. It is quite unnecessary. Yet you do have to fight. Emotions are dynamic and reactive. Flawed by their very existence. Expect contention, but respond in peace. Two people should not be angry at the same time…especially two lovers.

Even in ultimate separation or divorce, being civil and friendly will heal you. Bear in mind that love never dies. Who knows what the sisters of fate, or your very heart, may cause you to do again? Regardless?

Let there be love. Free yourself from hate and bitterness. It is not worth the trouble. Stop being self centered. Place yourself in their shoes; and even when you are certain that they are idiots, love your idiot passionately. They may have had the same conclusion about you eons ago.


Dan Ochu-Baiye

Large. Curious. Reads a lot. Wild. Loves lions and tigers. Music. Gym. Hiking. Loud music.

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