There is no pain greater than betrayal I think. Especially betrayal of love. The trust lost or betrayed can be quite excruciating. Guess its the reason spies are so loathsome… And killed when caught.

Love itself, (as we know it) is the culprit. Mankind has from time immemorial committed the foulest of deeds in the name of love. Or for love lost.

Tina Turner said it best, “what’s love got to do with it? What’s love but a secondhand emotion…?” Love is frankly over-sensationalized. Love is one of the most misunderstood concepts ever. I think we as people love the concept of love. We are in love with the idea of love. We have been handed down an interpretation of love. Not as love should be. But as we see fit.

We are mostly selfish beings. Animalistic in deed and indeed. No wonder we sit on top of the food chain.

I think a belief in God is the solution. As human spirits, we have and will always make a mess of things. And mess up people we ‘love’. But if we infused in our consciousness that we were answerable in the afterlife, we would probably toe paths of justice, equity and mutual respect. Plus, even when wronged, the very same belief in God would ameliorate the wrong… At least it would be easier to bounce back I think.

My heart goes out to couples going through separations; couples on the verge of divorce. I truly empathize. I feel your pain. Regardless of the reason you are where you are in that relationship, I urge you to forgive.

Try also to change for the better. Sometimes the other person did not truly cheat on you in their mind…the woman slept with another man because you had become a woman by your attitude and weak character. You had gradually in complacence, greed, selfishness, despair…(and all other reasons for bad behavior), turned into someone, something other than what they started with.

May we all enjoy true ‘Lovealways’.

Dan Ochu-Baiye

Large. Curious. Reads a lot. Wild. Loves lions and tigers. Music. Gym. Hiking. Loud music.

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  1. zeenike

    I do agree that love is a second hand emotion and that right now the world is working with a very warped definition of the word. However, when you bring in belief in God into the equation are you saying that it is impossible for atheists to love, forgive, have happy marriages?

    1. Dan Ochu-Baiye

      Let us scrap the word ‘God’. Let us stick to an abstract-ambiguity like ‘universe’, ‘higher power’. or just any ideal inhuman. I just feel that the human element inherent in us all has caused mankind failure on the issue of love. As Robert Green astutely pointed out, ‘there are exceptions to every rule…’ So of course, there are those of us humans objective and better balanced emotionally that can make good success in love.

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