Something happened to me recently. Not directly, I was a second-party casualty.
An innocent bystander and unfortunate recipient of the “cock up”. The unfortunate series of circumstances got to me. And got me thinking.
I was perfectly situated to analyse this indecency.
I was there, just being human and making mistakes.
No, I didn’t kill anybody.
No one got hurt.
I did not physically harm anyone.
The psychological harm alleged were arguable, and in my humble opinion, bogus.
The issue?
Because of my affiliation with one who had lost credibility, I was starting to lose respect and credibility too.
For the sake of peace and the discouraging of murderous genes dormant in some of my ‘friends’, let me leave the issue as I have diplomatically stated it.
My point is salient regardless of which end you are on.
I hope these “carbuncles” help…
1) Causing More Trouble Than Your Worth
Take a critical review of who you really are. Are you realistically worth fighting for?
Positive affirmations and faith aside, are you worth the drama or trouble you cause?
You see, consistently being an ass devalues your person. Reduces you to mere memories. You’re like the chubby niece or nephew, good for a once in a while indulgence. Mostly avoided.
2) Keep Talking; Incessantly
“… In the multitude of words, sin is not lacking…”
“Draw near to listen…”
You do not need to be heard always and/or on every subject.
No one is really interested in your troubles ultimately. You see even close family will sometimes only indulge you by listening to you whine, ONLY because your complaints make you less of a superhuman and more like they are.
Everyone has their issues.
So it’s pleasant for them to listen to you prove to them that “the rich also cry”.
Better still, your yakking bolsters their self-esteem because when listening to your clueless renditions, they can ascertain that they are better than you.
Priceless!!
3) Status Quo; (The Mess We Are In)
Have a gentleman where I work that calls himself ” the king of the poor”.
The gentleman in question has sunk from poverty to penury. Stopping always at bankruptcy for a fistful of ‘poor’.
Eagles do not roost, they soar. It is chickens that roost.
Choose to behave like a chicken and clamour and scratch and scrape… Or an eagle… Majestic, enigmatic, big, strong, reliable.
It’s up to you. Common-ise yourself or otherwise.
4) Snitch On Yourself
“If you stopped telling your friends everything, then your enemy wouldn’t know so much about you.”
A snitch is like a rat.
Despicable.
Carrier of filth and disease.
Rats are better off elsewhere… Dead.
Relationships of any sort require confidentiality.
There are codes of conduct. Do not speak about anyone to anyone. But to that one.
Do not boast or gloat, it cheapens you.
If you are snitching on your beloved… You idiot! Leave them instead.
If you are snitching on your spouse… Your idiocy is stratospheric!!
I won’t dwell on this point, I find it annoying.
Sheeeesh!!!
5) Misplace Your Loyalties Or Priorities
Play your part. Play your position.
A carpenter is scarcely expected to be giving lectures on quantum physics at MIT.
Nor the good captain on British Airways expected to be serving cocktails mid flight.
Focus on your roles. If you do not know them, learn more.
As ignorance is no excuse in law, so there is no law against labeling the ignorant a ‘poor excuse’ of humanity.
It’s shabby and in poor taste when you are not on point.
You are not reliable.
Busy day tomorrow. I’m off!