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Men are a strange lot. I think we mean well mostly. We just seem to possess this darned inability to communicate emotional feelings properly.

I knew this to be a fact whilst assessing a public poll via social media I conducted recently. For every five women that spoke to me, only one man did.

Even when they spoke, their responses were frugal. Yet they were not economical with the truth. I had to probe and pry. Finally though, the truth came through… 10 reasons why your man will leave you.

1. NAGGING
Now you know the reason why he scarcely comes home straight. Men would typically stay back at work hoping their women would be asleep or too relieved when they eventually show up to begin to nag. Or they stop over at a pub or ‘garden’ to fortify themselves (with some alcohol or substance) for the nerve-grating garrulousness they are inevitably going to bear. Its the most occurring reason why he will leave you.

2. TRUST
This topic is vast. If your man feels he cannot trust you, or trust you with certain details, he will clam up. Pushing his buttons to force a reaction may leave you high and dry conversation-wise. Or the recipient of monologues. A man typically falls in love over time. Its too risky and we are not wired for emotions as first respondent. Funny though, is that he falls out of love in split seconds. Don’t get me wrong; he still loves you, just no longer in love with you. As I told someone a while back, “a woman has the (self-destructive) and largely undiscovered potential to build a relationship in 7 years, but tragically tear it down in 7 minutes with careless actions and speech”.
Another relative of trust is ‘LIES’. Chris Rock said it best, “men lie all the time; but women tell the biggest lies!
Call it stereotyping… But men think women tend to tell monumental lies.

3. CLEANLINESS
Yup!
I agree. Not tidiness, hygiene.
Those panties marinating in the bucket for days in the bathroom… That ‘off’ smell oozing from poorly maintained privates…(yeeesh!)…smell off poorly kept hair…the list is endless. Its the subject of locker room talks. Yeah they’d still shag you…but maybe that’s why he had that cigarette immediately after, or why the faucet kept running while he retreated into the bathroom. Don’t be nasty, don’t be gross. Cleanliness is indeed next to godliness.

4. INFIDELITY
No brainer…what did you think would happen? Closely linked to “TRUST”. Once its gone; run!

5. ATTITUDE
– To Sex
– Your presentability to his family and friends
– Your teachability
– Unnecessary haughtiness and (empty) pride.

Your attitude determines you altitude. Men process differently. We are wired to think into a relationship. Women typically feel into a relationship.

Believe it or not, the abovementioned are some of the criteria he would use to make ‘it’ or break ‘it’.

6. LOYALTY
Women prefer commitment. Exclusivity too. A man wants loyalty and respect! Take it or leave it. Love him or leave him. If in the face of adversity and trials his woman can still be loyal and respectful; (attention please), he will morph from a tiger to a kitten.

7. HOMELINESS
Precursor to marriage. If you can’t cook or clean. Can’t “Proverbs 31” basically… You do the math ma’am.

Don’t be deceived by the brevity of HOMELINESS… Its the foundation of potential longevity.

8. FRIENDS
Show me your friends and I will tell you the type of person you are.

If the close friends you present to him are majorly divorced, single mums, deviant, morally bankrupt etc…then, this writer rests his case.

9. MATERIALISTIC/GREEDY
“Give me, give me!!”
“I’d like…”
“Baby may I have…”
“Sweetie your girl is broke…”

Hmmm…maybe, just maybe, he is not as stingy as you think.
A “keeper” typically helps to conserve for a joint future.

Think about it my sisters…

10. CRAZY
Uhmmm…Tim-Tim, I’m stumped here. Don’t really get your take on this point.
Well, I can only surmise that nobody likes an insane person in close proximity.
I guess it may have been “that time of the month”?
For whatever reason, tone it down luv! He may have been thinking of you as the potential mother of his kids. And truthfully, crazy behavior off a woman is crass, uncouth, unladylike and just wrong!

SUMMARY

George said it best,

“Here’s all you need to know about men and women: women are crazy and men are stupid.  And the main reason why women are crazy is that men are stupid”

Whatever that means.

This writer rests…